Thankfulness is a trait that Will and I have endeavored to set as a pillar of our marriage. Considering we’ve only been married for about 4 1/2 years, I’d say that we are still early on in our marriage. That pillar of being thankful is still being formed, and this year I plan to use this blog to help foster that.
One of my goals for 2017 is to blog weekly. I have already failed the first two weeks… To accomplish this goal I realized that I need to ear mark a day for blogging, and Thursdays seem to jump out. When Will and I were dating, for a while we gave is day of the week its own trait. Thursdays were Thankful Thursday. So, at least for the first part of the year, we are embarking on Thankful Thursday – 2017 Edition.
Here’s why I think Thankfulness is so important. If the love of money, or the love of more if you will, is the root of all kinds of evils (1 Tim. 6:10) – then thankfulness is the opposite. Thankfulness is the root of all kinds of goodness. Thankfulness fosters joy, it fosters generosity, it fosters love, patience, and selflessness.
Short and sweet. That is my goal for the year and my heart for this space. I want the Pomeroy Life to keep building and strengthening that pillar of thankfulness. I want to record our daughters smiles and frowns, firsts and falls. To cherish our friends and family. And ultimately to uplift God who blessed me with the breath in my lungs, His Son Jesus, and all the rest which is just the icing on the cake.
Here’s to 2017, to goals, to being thankful! What are some of your goals for 2017? What are you thankful for?
These last ten weeks have been so full of wonderful moments, lessons learned, laughs laughed, frustrating moments, and lots of learning to do things one-handed.
I don’t know how Charlie was ever inside of me, but she was. The weirdest part is how not weird it is for her to be here. It’s just natural, like she was always supposed to be here with us. Things are different, but the change has been natural. We are still learning how to go out for dinner, how to help each other with her, and how to get places on time (why is that such a struggle?!).
But if I had to say how we are doing overall, I would say that as a family we are doing great! As a married couple, Will and I are finding an even deeper love and appreciation for each other. It’s heart melting to watch each other parent and nurture our daughter. As far as babies go, Charlie is pretty awesome! She sleeps through the night most nights and makes hilarious faces. She rocked the baby acne for a while and now has outgrown that and moved onto cradle cap. Charlie plays in the bath tub now, has a favorite spot on the couch, has a favorite toy (Mr. Monkey), likes to suck on frozen pacifiers, and she enjoys running with me!
When I look at Charlie, play with her, put her down for the night – I see all of the ways she’s growing and changing. Then I wash her laundry and think to myself “surely she can’t fit these tiny clothes anymore.” But you know what; she does! Somehow she still does.
Above all the ways to sooth her, all the things I can now do one handed, the best thing I have learned is being in the moment. When Charlie is awake the rest of my to do list becomes shockingly insignificant. When Charlie is crying, figuring out how to make everything better is top priority. When Charlie is smiling and playing everything else just fades away, and a perfect hour passes in the blink of an eye.
So in the end, I guess all of the lessons learned from the first 10 weeks with Charlie boil down to one thing. It’s like my mom always says – So many things can wait while you hold your children.
I remember writing last year for our anniversary, that not a lot that had changed on the outside part of our lives… the part that everyone gets to see. Year 3 was different. In fact, the majority of the landmark happenings of year 3 were the type that everyone gets to see – at least those that keep up with us regularly.
We made the largest purchase of our life this year – we bought a house! Home ownership is awesome – even if your furnace goes out in the middle of winter (right after you buy the house).
We opened our home to a couple of roommates, which has enriched our lives in a way that is difficult to express. Let’s just say that life is best lived in community – even it means late nights sometimes.
We got to go on a mini vacation to Colorado, which was a major goal for us to do last year, and we signed up for a short-term mission trip to Haiti, another goal we had set. Travel and missions are two of our passions/values that’s we don’t want to lose touch with.
I know it may sound repetitive, but possibly the biggest obstacle of our relationship in year 3 was communication. Buying a home changed our lives, but the learning how to communicate our wants and needs to each other during that process will last us much longer than the house will. Having roommates has given us another avenue to better our communication – especially about who parks where in the driveway every night! It also has helped us to cherish our time together and communicate more effectively in those moments.
We learned a lot about how to be on each other’s side in year 2, but in year 3 we got to live it out. We have encouraged each other in our personal goals (like Devra’s marathon and school), supported each other professionally (as Will was promoted to department head at Home Depot and starting a business together), learned how to be a shoulder for each other to lean on in the midst of adversity,and perhaps most valuably we’ve learned how to be loyal and supportive of each other even when we don’t agree. We are each other’s best friend and biggest ally.
In summary, Year 3 has been a year of action; a year of putting into action all of the values and passions we spent years 1 & 2 formulating. It’s not standing for it if you don’t live it out.
All things considered… we love each other very much. Love is still a choice, and we continue to learn how to best show that love to each other. We’ve made great strides in not going to sleep angry and being kind to one another… just like my grandpa taught us.
(more on our 3 year wedding anniversary trip to come in a later post)
This was supposed to be posted on Saturday, but I ran out of time… we all know how that goes.
Roughly 5 years ago he walked into my life as nice guy from Kentucky who always wore a red baseball hat (confession: at the time I didn’t know baseball – I just knew it was a red hat; I didn’t realize it was for THE Reds), obviously loved Jesus and loved people, and thought I was cute. He saw in me a girl worth risking it all for – and he proceeded to do so. I got to know him and realize what a rare, genuine, and remarkable man he is. Fast-forward through all the cheesy, lovey-dovey stuff; today Will and I have been married for 3 years!
There will be an update on year three and a whole bunch of pictures from our weekend anniversary trip to Colorado that don’t do the grandeur of the mountains justice. But for now, I will leave you with links to some of our other posts about Marriage and Relationship Lessons Learned:
We are about to hop on a plane to celebrate 3 years of marriage with a weekend of adventure in Colorado!!!! Our actual anniversary isn’t till Tuesday, but that doesn’t mean we can’t start reminiscing right now. =) As we board our flights today, our bags are packed with the essentials for a weekend of epic adventures, and our hearts are filled with memories of all the everyday adventures these last three years have brought.
There will most certainly be a post about our Colorado getaway and the adventures had/lessons learned in year three. For now, we will just stick to the reminiscing anniversaries past. So here you go Looking Back – Wedding and Anniversary Recap.
If you don’t already know how Will and I met, here is a synopsis of Our Story. It’s a pretty crazy one, but I love how our story got started!
We met, we talked, Will flew 600 miles, and the rest is pretty much history. But it’s well documented history!
I don’t have post about why we made the choices that we made for our wedding. Maybe I should write one, but for now I will summarize it by saying that we wanted a wedding that expressed the BOTH of us, who we were as a couple, who we wanted to become as a couple, and the things that we stood for. We made basically all of the decorations ourselves and did so pretty cheaply. We are simple, and we want to have a simple, minimal, but beautiful life. I think that we accomplished that from day one.
After the wedding comes life together. We have been thoroughly enjoying ours! Every year we sit down at our anniversary and intentionally comb through the events of the previous year to glean lessons from it, savor every ounce of joy, and take note of all the emotional, spiritual, and tangible ways that God has worked. Here are some posts recapping years one and two:
If you aren’t already taking moments to be like Ferris Bueller – to pause and look around at life, then I encourage you to find a moment this weekend to do so. It really helps put things in perspective.
There will be a post coming tomorrow recapping other thoughts and lessons about marriage so far. So come back for that. I hope you enjoy your weekend! Stay tuned for more on Colorado and year 3!
But it was filled with family and friends from near and far. So much happened, so many people came and went. I have to share it here because there were so many June memories to treasure, and I do not want to forget them.
We kicked it off with sending my sister birthday wishes from afar and welcoming Will’s family from Sweden into our home for a delicious dinner and a good old fashioned American s’more roast. They were pretty fantastic, and Will and I really hope we get the chance to go visit them in Sweden.
That was a wonderful evening that I do not want to forget. Magnus and Agneta were such good humored and wonderful people. They are generous and warm hearted, and full of interesting conversation. I am glad we got the pleasure of spending time with the people who sent us our Christmas goat in the mail all the way from Sweden!
More locally, we got our luau on celebrating our good friend’s first daughter’s 1st birthday, and finding out that they are having a second daughter! We also had the pleasure of celebrating the marriage of two of our other friends here in Lexington!
We were able to celebrate our niece Mary’s 10th birthday with her and enjoy an evening with Will’s family up at his mom’s farm practicing yoga, learning gymnastics, grilling, and catching up on everyone’s lives.
We also had to privilege of opening our home up to some of our best friends! We had Will’s best friends from grade school plus one wife, and one newer but wonderful friend spend the night with us. That was followed by a 10 year high school reunion of sorts, and although the weather felt like October we still had a great time shooting, cooking out, and definitely enjoyed the bonfire!
That weekend was followed by having my two best friends from high school stay with us for a couple of days. Can I just say that it is so convenient to have your two best friends marry each other! It is also one of the most joyful things that you can experience; their wedding day was my favorite wedding (other than my own) that I have ever been to, and one of the most memorable/best days of my life. My heart was bursting with love and joy for them!
Will and I are so blessed to have such good friends. His friends go WAY back, so much so that they are more like family than friends. They welcome in wives as if we had been with them all along. No matter what curves come from life – I know that those guys (and their respective families) will ALWAYS be there. They will always be there for prayer, advice, dreams, laughs, visits, and phone calls.
We are also fortunate to have Paul and Mel, another set of friends who no matter the time lapse will always be there and always love you as much or maybe more than the last time you saw them. We might not be a group of goofy high schoolers getting into shenanigans any more, but we are still goofy, we still get into shenanigans, we still know how to put away some s’mores, and now we have a deeper friendship strengthened by years and life experiences we never imagined that we would have.
Behind the scenes, there were multiple irons stuck into the fire. There are new endeavors underway in the Pomeroy Life, and this was the perfect month to start them – a month when we had so many people coming and going to bounce ideas off of. A month that gave us the chance to include those closest to us in some of our big adventures.
June was quick and exhausting, but if I could put that month on repeat I would. So many friends both new and old. So many things to celebrate, so many adventures. June was a month to treasure (my word for the year).
This topic has been on my heart and mind for some time now – Grace. It is a topic that I in no way grasp the depth of – Grace Upon Grace.
Thankfully though, it is a verb that I have displayed before me on the regular.
Confession – I have many faults, vices, and unsightly character traits. I am impatient, stubborn, defensive, and competitive; I can be vain and insecure, prideful and temperamental. And most of those are exponentially worse when I my blood sugar is low – aka “hangry.”
When I compare that tone of that resume to the vibrant hues of my lie, I am at a loss. There’s only one thing I can contribute it to – Grace. I am the recipient of that which I do not deserve. On an intangible level I have received powerful grace beyond my wildest dreams from the Lord, but recently I have been noticing how it is played out before me in tangible ways. I see it when I look back over the years of parenting from my mother, in the joy of the simple things, the rejuvenating power of rain, and most vividly in the grace extended to me from Will.
He is probably the most gracious husband on the planet. Recently I have been very overwhelmed by how much grace he pours out on me. Point and case – building the bed frame:
Carpentry is not a natural gift for either of us. There were plenty of mistakes made along the way as we built that beauty. One major one was me putting the posts/legs on the foot board in the wrong spot. This turned what was supposed to be a quick assembly of all the pieces I had made into a much larger ordeal which killed the drill battery. This was big because Will had been at work all day. He got home at 8:30 and the last thing he probably wanted to do was help me assemble a big heavy bed frame. But you know what – it was the first thing he did when he walked in the door because he knew how important it was to me. And when we realized that I had majorly screwed it up – he took a deep breath and took everything in stride. He never once raised his voice or took an unpleasant tone with me. He calmly worked through the situation with me as we tried to figure out how to fix it. Nor did he get impatient with me when we realized I had forgotten to charge the backup battery for the drill.
Since we are exact opposites in nearly every way there is ample opportunity for grace. He comes home from long days at work and is gracious with me as I attempt to swallow my hanger till we eat dinner. He works hard to provide for us. He does not bite back when I lose my temper. He does not snap when I am impatient.
He gently leads me and shows me a better way by example. To put it simply, marriage is a journey of me learning many things – particularly about the depths and constancy of God’s grace through the reflection of it I see in Will’s grace toward me and those around him.
It is the same with God. No matter how many times I fail to look to Christ and/or look like Christ – He is there with open arms and a loving heart to lead me in a better direction. God’s grace is powerful. It can change situations by changing our hearts. I know I need it for my short-fused temper, my defensive tone, and my competitive nature. I know I need it in order to better love Will and everyone else around me.
What I am learning about grace is that it does not matter – God never runs out. Every morning is new dose stronger than my two cups of coffee.
Lamentations 3:22-23 The steadfast love of the Lord never ceases;his mercies never come to an end;they are new every morning;great is your faithfulness.
John 1:17 And from his fullness we have all received, grace upon grace. For the law was given through Moses; grace and truth came through Jesus Christ.
James 4:6 But he gives us more grace. That is why Scripture says: “God opposes the proud but shows favor to the humble and oppressed.”
Let me close with this prayer for you and for me:
2 Peter 1:2 Grace and peace be yours in abundance through the knowledge of God and of Jesus our Lord.
There was once a young guy, and as is the case with most young men, a certain girl caught his eye. She was his opposite in most every way. Before this turns into a fairy tale or is mistaken for Will and I (because we are most definitely opposites), let me clarify – I am talking about my parents.
Last month my wonderful parents reached 40 years of marriage!
(And right now they are on their celebratory cruise so I won’t get in trouble for singing their praises for a few days)
Will and I have been married for 2 years and 10 months. We have hardly put the full scope of our marriage vows to the test yet. I say that because I know I am blessed to have the longevity and richness of my parents’ exemplary marriage to look up to, but I also know that I have absolutely no clue just how valuable that example may prove to be as life goes on for Will and I.
However, I already know a few key things that I have learned from my Moms and Pops.
Keep God first – in your relationship with each other, in your goals, in your finances, in your parenting, in the battles you pick… Basically in everything.
Never stop acting like moony teenagers – flirt with each other, hold hands in public, laugh, don’t take yourselves too seriously, etc.
Embrace each other’s families.
Support each other’s interests and endeavors.
Their lives are not filled with pinterest perfect decor or instagramable date nights. They aren’t caught up with any of that. They are content to live below their means and find value in the simple things – like how my dad brings my mom a weekly Sonic drink, or how my mom would always keep Dara and I (mostly me) quiet after my dad would go to sleep since he had to be up at 4:30 every morning.
My parents grew up in their church. My dad asked my mom out for their first date at church. He proposed to her at church. They got married at church. They raised us as a part of that church. And they have never stopped serving people at and through the church. It’s not really the church part that matters, it’s the fact that my parents were actively seeking to have a marriage that focuses on making an eternal impact. They have opened their hearts to so many people. I know from experience serving with Will, that sometimes you can serve more fully when you are serving with your spouse. As a team you can bring out the best in each other and love others more completely.
This is what I see in my parents. They are a team. They push each other to love those around them more completely, because that is how Christ loves us and calls us to love others. Sure they also push each other’s buttons too, but they know how to laugh about it, give grace, and pick the battles that really matter because they both have their eyes on the love of Jesus.
I hope you guys are enjoying your cruise! Thank you for being there for me with advice, wisdom, and the lifelong stockpile of actions to back it up. My gratitude for the two of you and your marriage only continues to grow.
ps… if you are in Lexington and looking for a good photographer, check out Jenny with Rugged Joy Photography. She was wonderful to work with!
School’s out for the summer! It’s over! 9 more credit hours of school down. 2 more A’s in the books. 1 semester closer to completing a degree in dietetics. I am so pumped! This is the first time I have a substantial break in school since I started 14 months ago.
Freedom. Time to recharge. A chance to focus on other things.
This summer is going to be great! There are a lot of house projects that I want to accomplish this summer, memories I want to make, bonfires I want to burn, tents I want to pitch, and some ol’ ballgames that I want to be taken out to! All that being said, I also think that this summer off is going to help me refresh my passion for nutrition and gain some more vision for how to use my degree.
To celebrate and let me know how proud he is of me Hubster came home yesterday and asked to take me out to dinner or whatever I wanted. Seeing as we had tasty leftovers in the fridge (and I am not a huge fan of eating out) I opted for a double scoop from Graeter’s.
We earned those double scoops. Both of us. I might have put in the hours of homework, but Will put in hours of encouragement, of working hard to pay tuition, making the occasional dinner, helping out when I was super stressed out about my homework, and coming to my math rescue on more than one occasion.
Summer is going to be great! I will share the Summer Bucket List for thePomeroyLife so stay tuned!
Also, look forward to seeing pictures of our redone table and chairs very soon! You got a little sneak peak in the photos of my books and backpack.
We have a tradition a wonderful tradition in our home (although, I think I might enjoy it more than Will does)Birthday Week.
That’s right, for a whole week we get to celebrate how happy we are that the other person was born! It’s nothing fancy, just a little something intentional each day. The hard thing is always deciding if it’s going to be 7 days leading up to our birthday, 7 days following out birthday, or just the 7 day calendar week of our birthday. This year for Will we did the 7 days leading up to his birthday. It was full of sweet – sweet food, sweet moments, sweet notes, and sweet memories.
I love this tradition so much for various reasons. I love the reminder to be intentional with each other and to notice the things that we do for each other. Sometimes birthday week moments are nothing abnormal (like sonic happy hour), but those normal-ish ways that we cherish each other can become expected and overlooked if we aren’t careful.
I am grateful for the space that birthday week creates to invest in the things that are important to each other and the things each other enjoys.
Birthday week also refreshes your mind and emotions. Being intentional brings to mind all of the reasons why you love that person. In the case of it being your spouse’s birthday, it reminds you why you chose to spend the rest of your life with them and why you choose that again every morning when you wake up and every night when you go to bed. It reminds you why you are grateful for them, what they do that makes you laugh, how they show you love and grateful you are for it. I even learned something new this birthday week – I really appreciate it when Will makes the bed all nice in the morning. Who knew I would be grateful for that? But Birthday week created that change of normal pace necessary to realize something like that.
I have to say that I couldn’t have been blessed with a better husband. I know he doesn’t think he deserves such high praises, and that’s part of why he is great. I have had the privilege of being part of his life for 4 years now. And every year he grows and changes in some way. This year I have seen how dedicated he is to our marriage and to me. I have experienced extreme support from him in the form of help with my homework, staying up late while I finish a test, standing up for me, bringing out the best in me, showing me so much grace when my short temper flairs up, making dinner or doing the dishes so I have time to train for a marathon, relax or just because.
In this last year I also got to watch him truly embrace being the provider as his hard work and godly character have quickly taken him from part time newby at Home Depot to full-time head of the flooring department, in how he helped find a great deal on the perfect home, and through his willingness to work hard on and off the clock to provide finances, memories, and great space to live our lives.
In the last year Will you have gone from twenty seven to 20 Gr8. Thank you for choosing me to be a part of the everyday adventures of your life. Here’s to another awesome year of finding out what God has up His sleeves for you!