Therefore, since we are surrounded by so great a cloud of witnesses, let us also lay aside every weight, and sin which clings so closely, and let us run with endurance the race that is set before us, 2 looking to Jesus, the founder and perfecter of our faith, who for the joy that was set before him endured the cross, despising the shame, and is seated at the right hand of the throne of God. ~Hebrews 12:1-2
Disclaimer: 1) sorry this post got long. 2) These thoughts that I am about outline are not necessarily based on a study of doctrine or even that much experiential support as I am not that old and have only been married 2 years. These are just my thoughts. Those of you with more wisdom and knowledge of biblical truth, please comment and steer in the right direction if I am on the wrong one.
I run a lot, and when you run you have to remember to go at your own pace, run your own race. It doesn’t matter who’s whizzing past you or how many people you pass. All that matters is you do what you can; if you try to run someone else’s race it won’t go that well for you.
I think that the same thing applies to life. You can’t compare your race to everyone else’s. It doesn’t matter what the people around you are involved in or accomplishing. If that’s not your race then don’t run it. Let go of comparison and find contentment. Let go of your plans and find God’s.
There are several areas of life I have seen the need to abide by this principle in. For starters, I have been learning that I can’t even compare my race to what it used to be. Our first year and a half of marriage I had time to cook dinner most evenings. I had time to make healthy, less processed granola bars for me and toaster strudel for Will (yes, HOMEMADE toaster strudel). Not this fall. Sometimes I let that get to me – like I am not being as amazing of a wife as I should be. But that’s not true. The truth is the laps of our race aren’t identical.
Even in marriage you have to run your own race. Please don’t take that wrong. I am not telling anyone to say “see ya later-ville” to their spouse. Will and I will always run our races together, but we that doesn’t mean they are the same. Take school for example. Our entire relationship one of us has always been in school, but we haven’t always been in school at the same times. I can’t write Will’s thesis for him, and he can’t do all of my Dietetics homework for me. But we can support each other. I can edit his papers. He can help me when I need it. He cooks and cleans for me sometimes when I am bogged down, and I mow the lawn for him (when I can get the mower started). He can’t run my race for me and vice versa, but we can run our races together.
I think this ties in some with entitlement. Sometimes we see someone get a promotion or buy a house, we compare, we wonder why we aren’t doing that, don’t we deserve it? Maybe you do, maybe you don’t. But life isn’t always about what we deserve (thank the Lord! …no seriously, thank Him. Jesus dying on the cross for me was not what I deserved). Sometimes life is about simply being where you are supposed to be not necessarily where you deserve to be or even where it’s popular to be.
We grow up being told to be ourselves, be an individual, and chase our dreams. As adults of all ages I think we need to take that to heart still. Be yourself. Don’t compare. Don’t let yourself get caught up chasing people in their race, playing an expensive game of tag trying to keep up with the Jones, or even getting ahead of yourself in your own race.
Be yourself. Run your race. And Trust that God’s got the rest.
Live in the moment. Live in the season that God has you in; He has you there for a reason.
What about you? Is there a comparison game you are playing? or a part of your race that you are struggling with?
I hope that something in here resonated with you and/or encouraged you!
<3 & Prayers,